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Quoting: Originally posted by DynaThom
Thank you for posting this, Red Lilly. Many of us never seem to realize the damage done by our words can be as lasting as wounds from a gun or sword.
In my case it was something I said to a family member, in anger, in a house in Socorro, New Mexico in the Spring of 1959. At the time it almost got me killed. Literally. But the damage I did was far longer lasting than a mighty burst of temper. I realized many years later that the wounds I inflicted that day bled until the day the person I said them to died, and the backlash has caused me to still be bleeding 50 years later. In fact, I will be in Socorro next week and I plan to ? try to ?exorcise the ghost of an action,? while I am there.
I doubt that anything I have said has helped you. I trully wish I did know how to help. Its easy to tell someone, You have to forgive yourself, first, and yet true self-forgiveness is one of the things many of us find hardest to do. I know I do. And, even when we do manage the self-forgiveness thing, we still have to live with the consequences of our actions.
True of any action, whether a physical action, or words. Unfortunately, all too often it is so easy to say . . . whatever, because after all, its just words. We turn the old saying, Sticks and stones may break my bones, around and think, But my words wont really hurt . . . whomever. And yet, sometimes, they really do.
DT
Thank you for posting this, Red Lilly. Many of us never seem to realize the damage done by our words can be as lasting as wounds from a gun or sword.
In my case it was something I said to a family member, in anger, in a house in Socorro, New Mexico in the Spring of 1959. At the time it almost got me killed. Literally. But the damage I did was far longer lasting than a mighty burst of temper. I realized many years later that the wounds I inflicted that day bled until the day the person I said them to died, and the backlash has caused me to still be bleeding 50 years later. In fact, I will be in Socorro next week and I plan to ? try to ?exorcise the ghost of an action,? while I am there.
I doubt that anything I have said has helped you. I trully wish I did know how to help. Its easy to tell someone, You have to forgive yourself, first, and yet true self-forgiveness is one of the things many of us find hardest to do. I know I do. And, even when we do manage the self-forgiveness thing, we still have to live with the consequences of our actions.
True of any action, whether a physical action, or words. Unfortunately, all too often it is so easy to say . . . whatever, because after all, its just words. We turn the old saying, Sticks and stones may break my bones, around and think, But my words wont really hurt . . . whomever. And yet, sometimes, they really do.
DT
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